What You Can Expect
Hello. Thank you for taking the time and interest to find out more about me and whether we could be a good fit for you to get the support you are looking for. I do hope I cover everything you need within this site, but if not, just jump to the contact page and send me a message, I will be happy to answer any questions or give you additional information. Also, please do have a look at the subsections to each of my pages, they provide information on supporting adults, or children, as well as photos and lists of my specialist training. To make this easier, you can just click on the underlined words, and they will take you straight to the relevant page. I hope you find what you are looking for and find the right support.
I qualified as a Counsellor back in 2007 and I currently work in Private Practice, as a School Counsellor and as an Adult Employee Assist Counsellor. I am predominately Person-Centred Trained, with qualifications in CBT, Gestalt and the use of creative methods. I offer face-to-face or Outdoor in Shrewsbury, Shropshire, and Electronically/Online from anywhere in the UK and Europe. (Please click on the links for more information)
The theory behind the person-centred model is that over time, we move away from our real selves: whether this is from experiences, other people's conditions, or not expressing our true thoughts or feelings. So, through empathy and genuine warmth, I would support you or your child to become aware and begin becoming the person you want to be.
'We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening, of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know.' - Carl Rogers
Due to this, there is huge emphasis on the importance of the relationship. It is vital for you or your child to feel comfortable enough to be truly open to fully experience counselling, so it is essential you feel a connection with me, and of course, I with you. This is why I advocate for initial shorter meeting, so we can get a sense on whether we both feel I am the counsellor for you.
'In my early professional years, I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?' - Carl Rogers
I also use art and other creative methods such as:
While I also make sure I am non-directive and that I help you to explore your own findings. Art and creativity help to identify hidden thoughts and feelings that are difficult to verbalise. It also helps children communicate with me when verbalising is too much.
Usually, we will either talk via email or over the telephone, before choosing whether we want to meet face-to-face or online. It'll be here that we will get a sense of whether we feel a connection and decided whether we both feel I am the counsellor for you or your child: We will also decide which type of sessions you would prefer or benefit most from. Either traditionally in a room, electronically or outdoors. Due to the different qualities they all bring, during our time together, I may suggest trying the different methods, but ultimately that will be your choice
The National Counselling Society have an amazing FAQ page which answers commonly asked questions.
How Counselling Can Help
'The person-centred approach ultimately sees human beings as having an innate tendency to develop towards their full potential. However, this ability can become blocked or distorted by certain life experiences, particularly those the experiences which affect our sense of value.' - Carl Rogers
In life, what we say to others can sometimes have a knock-on effect, altering relationships and the way people see each other. Counselling eliminates this problem and offers you the space and freedom to explore your own thoughts with an unbiased person.
While counsellors may not give you concrete advice or a checklist of things to do to feel better, what they will do is help you uncover your own insight and understanding of your problems providing you with the tools which will help you to resolve them on your own.
In the majority of cases, a single session will not be enough to help overcome any issues you're facing. Counselling is a journey, and it takes time and consistency to work effectively. Because of this, many people opt for regular counselling sessions to make the most of the process.
Counselling can help you understand yourself better and the way you think, which will ultimately help you develop a clearer understanding of your problems. The more armed with information you are, the easier it gradually becomes to navigate your way through any difficulties you are facing, so that eventually you can come out the other side feeling more positive. Counselling can also help you better understand other people's point of view, which can shed light onto the way you interpret words or actions. - Counselling Directory
THE CURIOUS PARADOX IS THAT WHEN I ACCEPT MYSELF JUST AS I AM, THEN I CHANGE" ~~CARL ROGERS